For Families

Are You Troubled By Someone Else’s Drinking?

The following questionnaire was designed by Al-Anon to help you decide whether Al-Anon is right for you. As you take this quiz, keep in mind that you may have been affected by a parent’s drinking when you were a child. Although Al-Anon does not provide guidelines on how to evaluate your answers to this quiz, we suggest you attend Al-Anon if you answer “yes” to two or more questions.

  1. Do you worry about how much someone drinks?
  2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
  3. Do you tell lies to cover up for some else’s drinking?
  4. Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
  5. Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
  6. Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
  7. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
  8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
  9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
  10. Have you been hurt of embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
  11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
  12. Have you considered calling the police for help, for fear of abuse?
  13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?
  14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
  15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to protect the drinker?
  17. Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
  18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
  19. Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
  20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

 

From “Are You Troubled by Someone’s Drinking?” © 1980, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 

Reprinted by permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.